Why do Christians believe God rules alone when the Old Testament illustrates the opposite?

Only Christians are allowed to use Biblical verses to make an argument, didn't you know that? Non-Christians don't know what they really mean and might use the ones that don't apply any more.

Questions about lake erie usa?

Lake Erie Watersnake What action is the U.S. Fish and Wildlife Service taking with the Lake Erie Watersnake? The Service is proposing to ...

How do you keep my fish tank from having such dramatic PH changes?

I am new to owning a fish tank, less than 6 months, and have 2 Goldfish in a 20 gallon tank. The problem is my tank PH has some pretty serious swings. I've seen numbers as high as 8 and as low as 5 in the last 2 weeks. Additionally I had problems with brown algae. I clean the tank about once every 2 weeks and the water temp is usually between 68 and 74, but I've seen it below and above these numbers. The fish seem healthy and active, but I am worried they will get sick or die if I don't address the issue now. Thanks in advance for the answers, if you need more info ask.

My soon to be ex is trying to take a car we bought together?

My soon to be ex boyfreind is very abusive and thats why I want to end our relationship.We bought a car in Feb.2011, he has abetter job so hi name is on the loan contract but not on the title.My name is the only one on the title and the plates and insurance. I told him he could buy me out but he refuses, saying he's taking the car and not giving me a dime. As I said he is very abusive and if I argue about it I'll end up getting punched and berated. Can he take my car? What can I do short of having arrested for hitting me. Please Help!! I have never been so miserable in my life and I need to know how to fix this without getting a black eye.

My swimming pool is turning green, will it go back to normal?

I recently bought an above ground pool and filled it with water about a fortnight ago but haven't got round to filtering it or chlorinating it yet. Will doing either of these things get rid of the algae (if thats what it is?) or will i need to drain it and start again? thanks

What do you think of my STORY so far?

It's catchy.. I'm wondering, though, Is he in any pain other than his headache? does he feel anything at all? Or is he gonna walk away without a scratch?

Should i call for abuse...?

if its going to hurt her more i think you should or find a number to a help or talk palce and give it to her just remmeber that its better to lose a friend by doing the right thing then not having one at all

My aquarium water is cloudy?

Probably a bacterial bloom. Not really anything to worry about. It should go away within a few days. You should do bigger water changes, though, something in the range of 20-25% (7ish gallons) per week. Driftwood doesn't cloud water, it makes it tea-colored.

My ex ex, started to talk to me again just a mounth ago. Yesterday he fingered me. What does that mean?

Okay well, he's giving me mixed emotions! Just a few months ago we started to talk again and its not awkward at all but yesterday when we were hanging out with a group of are friends, he would always be by my side. Also that day he fingered me. Just a week before he told everyone he like another girl. Now i'm really confused because i kinda do like him now. HELP ME PLEASE GUYS AND GIRLS HELP. Thank you.

What do red tailed black sharks eat?

I have had one in my tank for like 2 months now and Ive never seen it eat anything I give it. I tried flake foods, sinking shrimp food, bloodworms, and algae wafers. Its growing so I know its eating something but I dont know what.

How can I make my BF understand my social anxiety?

Honestly i have been reading so much about anxiety all over the computer lately because i just started suffering with it, but mine is general anxiety so its not only in social situations. There are so many websites and testimonials on the internet that you could read over with him of people who are really good at explaining exactly what it feels like and what they are going through. It would be good for you to read together. He will never understand because he doesn't feel it, but you can help him get to the point of excepting it. My boyfriend doesn't understand because he has never had these feelings before, he is so confused by it, but he totally excepts it and supports me completely in any situation im stuck in when i get anxiety. As long as he's willing to try to understand, then he is already on his way. If he says he want to do anything he can for you then he sounds like a good guy, just give him some time and like i said read up on it. Just type in Social anxiety in the search engine and so much will pop up. Sounds like he loves you behind all the frustration. God Bless you both.

Reproduction in red algae and true plants is known as?

Alternation of generations in diploid 2n -> haploid 1n stages. This is also known as a biphasic haploid-diploid life cycle.

What would you do if your son in mostly honors classes got 2 D's?

Yay, I think that's too much, I don't think punishment would do good. Besides what he did isn't a crime, everyone has there own downfalls, punishing him will lead him to have resentment for you. Rather, just give him encouragement and incentive if he's able to pull those grades up for the next time. and do appreciate his mark on other subjects then he'll surely look for that appreciation for those 2 subjects thus motivating him to do better to those two subjects.

How do I solve this coworker problem?

I'm working pt time through college and there is one woman whose in her 50's or so who never does anything. This morning I was very frustrated because I not only had to do my work but she had left all of hers for me to do as well. She berates everyone for even the smallest slight yet night after night she initials each item on the task list despite clearly not having done it. I left her a note this morning saying that she should at least empty the waste bin and wipe down counters and she called me at home tonight yelling and threatening to leave it in even worse condition for me tomorrow. I know she has issues but I really don't know what to do, I don't want to be the villain at work.

Is my mom controling abusive ?

Okay I don't know if my mom is being emotionally abusive as well as verbally. Inside I am really hurt and in turmoil. She treats me very differently from me and my older brother. I don't have anything against my older brother I am a middle child and for the most part independent. Yesterday my mom put me in charge of chicken. While I was in my room my older brother turned off the stove. When my mom came in she was yelling saying why did you turn off the chicken and I Said I didn't turn it off. My brother comes in she starts joking with him and she kindly says why did u turn it off. One of many occasions. I'm kinda a person who doesn't care much how I dress up I'm more of laid back all day pj girl. On school days I try to dress a little better but I keep casual mostly cause my mom isn't satisfied of how I look she complains cause of my hair and critizises my clothes basically saying I look like sh** . She always finds something to complain about why is your hair not shiny how come you don't dress like this she goes to the smallest details right down to my own smell. I do appreciate the small things she finds for me I always say thank you and show my gratitude by wearing it. also I'm not the smartest girl but I'm not dumb either I do recognize my own faults but she makes me feel low she calls me stupid dumb and idiot. She knows I'm not good at taking and giving directions she isn't either but everytime I mess up she insults me and yells at me I have to pull the phone out of my ear sometimes cause its that loud. I have very strong firm beliefs which she also berates she says I talk about stupid things and make stupid comments. I'm a good student I've never gotten I. Trouble never dranked smoked or even have a boyfriend. I've never given them a reason not to trust me. Now this morning I woke up early and found both my parents in the living room I told my mom I had pain I didn't make a huge deal bout it just kind of a thought. She then took her time to berate me.

Emotionally abusive boyfriend?

I just broke up with my emotionally abusive boyfriend. It was a very hard decision, but the insults and constant berating were really starting to destroy me. It's only been a day and I'm already fighting the urge to go back to him. What should I do? I know I must not go back to him but the urge is overwhelming me. I'm so bloody lonely. Please help

Where can I get large algae eaters to go with my oscars?

My oscar just ate my pleco because it was small enough to fit into its mouth. Where can I get an algae eater that is large enough and aggressive enough to live with osscar cichlids? Places in SoCal please

Why isn't my fresh water Eel eating?

i have a fresh water Eel and it has eaten before with no problem, and recently it doesnt wanna eat at all and its always upside down on the fish tank. he then swims around with no problem then many more times hes always upside down as he was dead, but hes not. anyone knows why? and is it a good idea to scrape algae off the fish tank?

Does America have the perfect propaganda system?

You might as well throw the United Nations into your tirade because they approved and requested everything you listed.

Quiet friend,getting made fun of being who she is,she's a good friend?

You're trying to sound smart in your comebacks, but your actual question here is retardedly written.

Does my crush like me?

aw.... "giant tadde bear"? That's so cute! I think she likes you! I think you should wait for about 1 month, or 2 weeks, don't move too fast. I think you guys are gonna be great together! Good luck

Will speech-writing give me this type of life one day?

People typically write their own speeches for weddings and funerals. Most (if not all) speech writers work for politicians or corporations. There are some highly paid speech writers, like the ones that work for the US president, but there are very, very few of those jobs. You could potentially make more than $100k per year (a lot) but you could also make a third of that (not that much).

I wanna become a rapper, do you think I Can? Tell me what you guys think?

yes u can u sound awesome n just like any other rapper they have to start small and u just have to be confident u will make it

So in society it's wrong to hit women?

It doesn't matter what she says to him, if its just verbal, he shouldn't hit her. However, if she's physically hitting him and physically attempting to harm him, he has a human right to defend himself. While he *should* scale back and not punch her all out, that's still hard to demand when in a situation where he is being hit.

How should I clean my pool?

We just got a pool about 3 weeks ago. We didn't use any chemicals or anything, so it got all green and it started to get algae. Then these bugs got into it (we think it's misquito larva) What chemicals should we use to clean it and how can we empty the water?

What to do about jealous/competitive uncle and cousin?

Sometimes copying can be the sincerest form of flattery to you. He def admires you but is too prideful to admit it and lacks self esteem to credit you for your achievements. So he feels the need to keep up with you and compete. My advice, ive dealt with this with my bff, as annoying as it maybe, talk to him about it. If he doesnt get it, distance yourself for awhile and live your life. Dont worry about it, like i said take it as a complement that you are someone, something he strives to be. Good luck.

Why Can't I Still Accept My Gay Sexual Orientation?

You complicate what is really simple. If it rains, you don't investigate all the meteorological details - it's raining, case closed! Same with being gay - no more needs to be said

My mom is obsessed with being right?

when she's right, i let her be right. i can understand that being wrong is embarrassing and i understand it feels darn good to be right but she takes it to a whole new level. whenever we talk about anything, and she ends up being wrong, i try to point out why she's wrong she continues to defend the same point until it becomes a shouting match, one of us usually ends up in tears, and she is willing to do anything - scream, cry (phony tears), blackmail, berate me on a personal level etc - to be right. rather than forfeiting and accepting the knowledge gained from the person who is right she is willing to hurt both of us deeply and cause suicidal thoughts in me and generally make everyone in earshot less happy to be right. never mind that her daughter is spiraling into depression, never mind that the neighbors are awake at 4 am, never mind that im getting hoarse from all the shouting, all that matters is that everyone pretends shes right. she has a few last resort desperation moves she pulls when she runs out of good arguments, "that's my line" can be said in response to virtually anything "you are an abuser" she is the one who will do anything to be superior "that's a lie" in response to a natural angry tone (your tone is a lie), tears or confession of suicidal or self destructive thoughts, or when i tell her that i just want her to stop hurting me (im not hurting you you're not sad that's a lie) the thing is she doesn't consider it being right unless someone else is hurt. also every conversation turns into an argument so this happens maybe 2 or 3 times a day more if i don't consciously avoid talking to her i just don't know what to do, even if i let her be right she has to viciously gloat about it for longer than the argument takes, even if i agree im no better to her and just as worthy of emotional torture. im crying so much my shirts all wet, what should i do

How do I backwash the filter of the pool?

In ground pool. Just cleaning because it got really overrun with algae I am new to this and don't want to wait for a pool maintenance to get here.

Overprotective dad, help! (17)?

The things you don't want to hear is the truth! But how to cope, you're almost old enough to move out. If you are going to college, try going to a college where you can live on campus. If that is still not an option, just save any and all your money and the first chance you get, move out. But don't take his overbearing and freak out. I've seen many girls go nuts after leaving a sheltered home. The world is a really scary place, and he's scared to death of the things that can happen. At the same time, you need to find a way to communicate with him that he is only pushing you away more than anything. Remind him that he needs to give you some slack. If that still doesn't do any good, as I've said earlier, count down your days to your birthday and get your ducks in a row to move out.

Which characteristic property allows multicellular algae like red green & brown algae to make the maximum use?

B. Algae don't have accessory photosynthetic organs. Even bacteria which don't have chloroplasts use chlorophyll in their cell membranes. Chlorophyll a, b, and c are simply different colors. The body surface shouldn't affect it too much.

On a relationship break..?

My boyfriend and I have been dating for just over 2 years and have been living together pretty much the whole time. we are both 23 I am currently 5 months pregnant with his baby. I know we have been agruing alot, and I have been emotion and telling him i need him there for me. It seems every weekend he hangs out with hs friends and does not come home until the next afternoon or evening. Even though I am pregnant and ask him to please come home after, he has never come home after in the last year that we have lived here. He says were not married and he doesnt understand why I care. But Anyway when he doesnt come home I get worried and sometimes acuse him of cheating. So the last time he went out i accused him again over the phone and he said its over. the next day he came home and grabbed some things and told me its a break, he wants to be single and free and not have me tell him what to do. and he loves me and only wants some space. It hurt me so much as I was so shocked and its been so hard on me, he ended up coming back and taking everything. he has moved in with the girl i thought he was cheating on me with and that hurt soo bad. this all happened within the last week. He insists he is not seeing her or fooling around with her or anyone, he says he doesnt want us to see other people, and he loves me more than anything. he just needs space , and is unsure if he will come back or not, but says we will be together agian. I feel so worried and I want him back more than anything, I am wondering if he is just saying its a break and he love me and says he isnt seeing her or anyone just to be nice, but if it was over wouldnt he just tell me hes seeing someone?. I do believe what he is saying that they are only friends and roomates, but its so hard to accept. Is there a chance he really does want to get back together? I am soo confused please help. How can I get him to want me back, I am such a great girlfriend i do anything for him, and only ask him to come home when the partys over instead of sleeping there.and accuse him of cheating which i know he hates. I want him to miss me and want me back and not make me feel worried.

Pregnant? The tests say I'm not, but I think I am...?

It definately sounds like you're pregnant. Sometimes, it just unexplainably takes a while for a pregnancy test to detect the hormone. I would suggest making a trip to the ER and requesting a blood test. They will see you regardless of your insurance or fi

Do liquid fertilizers go bad/expire?

hi, I wanted to pour in my liquid fertilizer to my tank today and I noticed that the liquid has some sediment and tiny plant matter-like debris when I poured it into the bottle cap. I then looked closely into the bottle (it's a transparent bottle) and found that at the bottom there are several large sized debris. It also smelled different. I haven't been using it for 2-3 months due to algae. Does this mean I cant use the liquid fertiliser anymore? I live in a tropical country and the bottle is always placed in a non-air conditioned room although it is not exposed to direct sunlight. Does this make a difference?

Your Open Question: What's wrong with me?

I'm 16 and I feel like I don't know who i'am.people at school say I look sad all the time and quite and hardly smile.I don't feel like doing normal stuff like play video games or go outside.every night and school nights I go to bed at 12 or 1 and when I get home I sleep for 2 hours.I just feel really mad and angry about everything and just sad there being nothning for me.I won't cry anymore hardley...I just get angry and will break things outing holes in walls.I don't do homework anymore just want to get through the day. I just feel like being alone and I never really hang with friends anymore.my dads mentally ill and been dealing with it for three years and I don't feel that much love for my mom or my brother and those are the two most important people in my life.I find it hard to smile and I guess I look angry all the time even when I'm not.I feel really sad also for liking this girl I know alot...it's been two school years I liked her and have so much feelings for her but she doesn't like me back..since it's summer I feel more angry then when I was going to school everyday.I don't know what to do anymore,I don't think I'm decent looking as a guy I actually think I'm ugly even though I ask the girls in my grade what they think and they say I'm attractive..I feel like I will fail my classes next year in highschool and will have no future,no hope..the man in my life I hate the most in my life is my father even though he has a illness.I feel weak everyday and over the past while getting drunk or high was the only time I'm not mad or angry.I only done those things couple times.I don't even like doing my passions anymore and I hate how people exspect me to be a artist when I grow up.Out of me and my brother, I'm more sensitive to everything.. and I have alot of emotions but I feel I don't have them anymore.I'm sensitive to light in mornings and have broke some of the lights.any advice on what should I do..please serious answers

How to de-stress your emotional pain?

why on earth would you ever hang out with people that make you feel bad about yourself? they could be jealous or just bitches.... either way if you were my friend theres no way i would deliberatley say thinsg to make you feel bad about yourself especially if i could see that it bothered you. i mean some people are naturally abrasive but gosh...if it feels like bullying its gone too far. you must be in your teens...its hard to have good self esteem when you constantly measure yourself to those around you. its not a worthwile process to belittle yourself and it isnt worth it to be friends with people who belittle you. self concious people tend to put too much emphasis on what others think of them and allow themselves to be defined and evaluated by others opinions on who they are. as you get older, you will start to know who you are and the self consiousness will dissapate...as for now....i think the best thing to do is to make yourself feel good about who what and how you are. practice self affirmations... find an outlet creatively...and appreciate your quirks like your frizzy awesome hair cause it makes you YOU! i can tell you are such a pretty girl just by your default :) exercising always helps me release steam as does writing in my journal, poems, making art... it also helps to turn your focus outward onto others such as volunteering or just concerning yourself with the people in your life and helping them so that your not so focused on your problems. focus more on your personality, spirit and what you have to offer from inside you... cultivate it, recognize it, acknowledge it and LOVE YOURSELF. you are alive, you are beautiful, you are worthy and most of all you are young. dont waste a moment of your youth being unhappy about your appearance, its a waste completely...oh and if you can get a dog that would be a plus! dogs always make a person feel better thats why they are mans best friend! best of luck to you!

How is the Gulf of Mexico and its residents doing -- And is the Gulf loop current dead?

The gulf is doing just fine. The oil was realitvly insignificant when you factor the thousands of square miles of water.

Is it okay for a guy to cry?

I was raised by parents who said that the man should be the leader in a household and the woman should be submissive, but the man should never cry unless a very tragic death occurs. Basically, the man should be strong and a leader and the woman can show more emotion but should be submissive. Personally, I don't agree with all of this, but that's a different story. Anyway, sometimes I just do feel like crying if something bad happens. Do you think it's okay for a guy to cry other than a very tragic death?

Why is My turtle tank is cloudy?

well maybe the new stuff put in it was dirty or the filters were dusty idk but clean it again well just the filters

Do you ever wish you could tweek your birth chart?

I think we should be happy with what we have. No one has a perfect birth chart and keep in mind the word "perfect" is super subjective. Someone might find having Scorpio placements are cool, and another person might find being Scorpio dominated is a curse.

What am I going to do with my life?

join the peace corp for a year or so while you give some more thought about it. helping others may help you. luck

The evil stepmother in real life?

My father got remarried after my mother passed away and for a while i figured it would just be an adjustment that i'd just have to get used to. But around 4 years have passed and she is the central cause of stress in my life. She yells and curses at me in a way my biological mother never would have, and shows favoritism towards my stepbrother. I would be alright if she was simply showering him with gifts and leaving me alone but it seems like he's the "perfect child" and I'm the "problem child". I'm always the once being cursed out and made to feel like a disappointment, when I've been working hard to get straight A's and already concerned about whether or not I would be admitted to a good college. But according to her i'm hard-headed and stress full. Yet he almost flunked out of school and graduated after many, many, years of her dipping into her life's savings when his tuition money ran out, and yet he's the rose while i'm just a pile of thorns. When I try to ask her as politely as I can not to yell and scream at me she replies, "I can yell whenever I want, it's MY house." When I bring up that she's never yelled at her own son the way she berates me, she gets even more upset and increasees the volume.My father has confronted her many times to no avail. How do i manage to keep my sanity without becoming a visitor in my own home?

Everyone says I always act like a victim?

You are right in your definition of a victim. They allow bad things to happen to them and the don't fight back. You're fighting back. It hasn't been easy but you are not giving up.

What is this stuff on my angel fish eggs?

Its probabley some kind of parasite feeding off the eggs. Ask somone at your local pet store and see what they say about it.

Pool Water Blue and Cloudy Safe to swim in?

You could get chemical burns on your skin. Contact your local pool store for instructions on the proper care of pool water and filtrations.

Whats the meaning of this quote?

"Emotion, which is suffering, ceases to become suffering as soon as we form a clear picture of it."

I hate socializing... I wish I didnt.?

Do you believe that you are succeeding in life? And do you therefore think that you're superior to them? What they are doing sounds like pretty normal behaviour for young people if you ask me.

Is this a panic attack?

Sometimes i get so overwhelmed by certain emotions that i go into this weird freak out session and i don't know what it is. its only happened a couple of times, the first time was after i found out i had to do a ten minute presentation. i went home and i had started shaking and crying, and then my heart started beating really fast and i felt like i couldn't breathe. i didn't know what to do and i couldn't put anything into perspective i just felt like there was no hope and i was very scared. i just end up siting on the ground freaking out untill i feel better, which is usually like 10ish minutes later. then sometimes i get so angry that i lose control like that and i feel like there's just no hope at all, and i end up doing the same thing with the same symptioms i explained above. it happened again yesterday because i was upset about something and i started shaking and crying and i felt like i couldn't breathe and my heart was beating fast, all that. it also starts to happen sometimes when i feel like i cant breathe because i have asthma and it freaks me out. so are these panic attacks or am i just really upset?

What single experience has moved you in your life?

We walk through life literally, just doing the same thing day in and day out... well kind of. So... has there ever been any moments in ur life where youve just been hit by emotion or... I dont know, inspired by something?? It could be anything. Hit me with em. Bizarre ones and all lol.

White water kayaking?

Hi, i am new to kayaking and i am wondering what kayaks are best for white water. Right now, i would like to get a kayak that is great on non-rapid rivers and lakes, but want to eventually ride class 3 or 4 rapids. Could any kayak suffice, or do i have to get one specific to the water i want to ride on? I am looking at the Emotion Glide and Future Beach Trophy 126 kayaks right now.

Do you know anything about pet fish?

I had the same problem. To prevent algae, you can use the All-Natural Algae Remover on bioverse.com/remove-algae. Some people also get algae eaters for their tank. They're bottom feeders that suck up the algae. Same thing with cory catfish. I have a cory, and it's awesome. Even when a bottle of chemicals were accidentally spilled in the tank, all the fish died but my cory. It's also a good idea to clean the tank more frequently so algae can't collect. Well, back to it. You can also buy algae scapers. Algae scapers are big magnets. You put one magnet IN the tank. The magnet is inside of the thing. On the outside is a spongy like material that. The other side has a magnet on, but, the outside is a cloth-like material. Theyare connected by a string. When you move the outside one around, it pulls the inside one. The inside one scrapes off algae. They're cheap things too. Just $10, but they're really effective! Hope This Helps!

Relationship issues? Will it work out?

If he can't communicate with you, at least give you some time to talk, then I think you are wasting your time. Maybe you two need some time apart to see what you really want?

Algae and Guppy Frys?

I have my guppy frys in a different tank, and they are doing fine. However, i can't really afford buying a heater so i use a cap from my other tank and use it as a heater, because the lightbulb gives it heat. The water right now is at the perfect temperature for guppy frys to grow in however, when i feel the side of the tank i feel algae. The clear algae but its slimy. I don't know whether i should give it a water change, or leave it alone. Isn't giving it a change in temperature bad? Is it okay to leave it alone? Or will the algae harm my guppy fry's health?

Or Get off the Pot??

I have been in my current relationship for a little over five years. My girlfriend is almost thirty while I'm twenty three. We see things differently; some times for the good, most times for the bad. I started dating her straight out of high school (I actually met her at my a high school graduation party) and I admit being in a relationship with some one older took some getting used to. There were a lot of people who said it would never work and that we'd be over in a couple of months. Well, five years later, I'm at a cross roads. I've been thinking of proposing fro about two years now, and every time I work up the nerve something stops me. Its either we hit a sour patch in our relationship, or its money, or its just something stupid. Like I stated before, I'm younger than my girlfriend and she has already found her station in life,and has a job she loves, while I'm still working at a dead end retail (Mc)job slaving away just to make enough money to pay my bills. While I am currently searching for more, and even considering going to school, I feel as though she's rushing me to be in the same level she is. I don't think it even phases her that no more than a year ago she was just like me, working a crap job and making no money. She has had time to grow and live her life (and yes she was my first and only, but I was not hers) and most times I hate her for it. I feel like I never got the chance to be free and make stupid mistakes that most guys my age have made, and used those mistakes to grow into a better man. She berates me about how much she does in comparison to me, and how much I need to improve, acting much like a mother instead of a mate. Meanwhile, I'm doing all the house work, yard work, and keeping my own job. I know I'm not a martyr, and I know that she wants me to improve out of love, but I can help but think some times that she is running my life, and I have no control over anything. I uprooted myself from the only home I knew for eighteen years and moved to a new state just to stay with her. I'm ranting at this point, but my question is, has any one been in a relationship like this and how did it work out? Is it time to throw in the towel, or do I need to buck up, be a man, and marry the woman I think I love?

What is this emotion i'm feeling..?

Well if she doesnt want to talk to you then maybe u could write her a letter or send an email and explain wat happened and that ur really sorry. if u were really good friends then im sure she'll forgive u. xXx

Why did she change so much and should I be afraid of those changes ?

I cannot believe this. Of course she has changed; she had to grow up and be your carer, not your girlfriend. Be thankful and don't grizzle; you owe her way more than she owes you.

What's the best way to get rid of Depression?

If you've read my previous question you know what im going thru...if not, long story short but im just so depressed that im gonna flip out with my emotions and do something crazy and/or lose my f***ing mind!!...i wanna drink lots of alcohol and drown my depression and emotions but i know there are other ways but i just dont know any......help plz..?

Now that we know Obama is Kenyan, is it time for him to resign?

No. Obama is still a natural born US citizen. You don't have to be born on US soil to be a natural born US citizen. John McCain was born in a civilian hospital in Panama.

3 fish in a 10 gallon aquarium, can I change the water less frequently?

I have a 10 gallon tropical aquarium with 2 Rasbora Heteromorpha Danios which are less than one inch long and an algae eater that is about two inches long at most. I usually have been doing 25% water changes once a month-that is when I had more fish in the tank. Now that there are only three fish can water changes be done every other month?

I can't stand being around my little sister, ever. What should I do?

Ok your parents told you to deal with it? You're in charge. "Spare the switch, spoil the child"-The bible. Time for some spankings, your parents obviously wouldn't care if you did do this, next time, warn her, then BAM! Smack her across her bottom, don't feel bad because this is for her own good.

Do you think, if your child asked to sign up for an activity, that if it were to fall on the other parent's?

My separated parents never argued over petty stuff like this. They did what they had to to keep things normal for me. My mom signed me up for gymnastics- the class was on my weekday evening court ordered visit with dad- he had no issues taking me, or attending all of the meets whether it was his scheduled time with me or not.

Why is my dad such a jerk?

My dad is always berating and putting me down for not knowing things. He is soooo mean and he thinks I'm stupid. I didn't do too well on a placement test and he yelled at me. He also puts me on the spot with stupid "common knowledge" questions & it really bothers me! How do I get him to stop? I'm not talking to him because he won't listen and ugh!

Are clay courts harder on the knees than hard courts and is Rafael Nadal stupid for blaming his knees on hard?

My brother is a huge Roger Federer fan and his accomplishments aren't enough for him that he has to berate Nadal for being whiny. He says that a firmer surface effects your knees less than an unstable surface (I almost believed him for a second recalling a drill our coach made us do jumping in a mat that indoor long jumpers go into and it was much harder than jumping on the courts but if he was right that would mean virtually the entire tennis community are idiots) and the reason why Nadal has knee problems is because he insists on playing all of the clay tournaments. He claims there is some physics behind this. Anyone who knows physics is that right? Also my bro makes fun of Nadal for quiting when he's losing or faking an injury much like Djokovic (he references the last two Australian opens and the French Open where he lost to Soderling). Feel free to comment on that as well

I thought I didn't like my boyfriend anymore, and called for a break, but...?

you should think about whether or not he makes you happy, because the initial excitement may just be gone. you should pick it back up again and try to make it work because you put out all of that effort to get him, don't let it go. good luck.

How do i take out nutrients from my fish tank?

i want it more stable that way brown algae wont get in the way so much? its a 55g 1 eel thats it and a huge snail.

How do you tell your parents you think you have a mental illness?

My mom has asked me if I think I have depression, which in my point of view I have always lived with it, but I chickened out and said no. My life has been weird when it comes to emotions. Like when I was younger I used to have hallucinations where there were bugs on the wall and my mirror was melting and it would make me cry to the point where my parents ran into my room to see if I was hurt. I don't have visual hallucinations any more but when I'm home alone I always hear things banging around. I get so paranoid that I keep a hockey stick and a baseball bat in my room to make me feel safer. I am also very moody. At least once a week I go from being so happy to having a nervous breakdown. It always happens when I'm alone and if I feel the sadness when around others I usually swallow it down until I have to excuse myself. I usually go into the bathroom and cry to get the worst of it out. I find it extremely hard to openly tell my parents what is happening to me and idk why. I guess I dont want to come across as a freak. It has been so bad now that I often think about suicide, I see people in my head trying to control my thoughts, i talk to myself all the time always putting myself down, and during a breakdown the color white makes me go berserk to the point where I feel like I'm having an athsma attack. Its like theres two different "me's" where im fine during the day but at night i become my worst enemy. I really need help but I don't know what to do to get help I know something is wrong with me and I want it to stop before I really hurt myself...like how do I tell someone something so painful that has only been getting worse each day when they have only seen me as the hyper happy girl?

Do birds have the brain anatomy to feel emotion/love a person?

I know humans do obviously but i know lizards and reptiles dont (which is why i dont think i would ever have one as a pet). Even though people claim to know that "my lizard loves me". But i would in future time want a lizard and a bird i think id rather start with a bird.

Should I contact my AP teachers?

You have to pay to get them before they mail them to you.. Well maybe your teacher will give it to you but i doubt it.

Simple Morality Test. Do we really need Religion to have Moral Standards?

Anyone who needs a religion or a book to know the difference between right and wrong is some kind of sociopath.

Will conservatives berate Obama for government spending when he gives the SEAL team the $25 million bounty?

yes. cons will berate Obama regarless of what he does. whether he releases his Birth cert. or not. whether he catches Osama or not. Whether he turns the economy around or not, whether he just breathes or walks..

Do you think she likes me? I will answer your questions?

Yepp., ithink you've been bitten by the lovebug.. lol but umm it seems like she likes you after all you wouldn't make up all this would you.mm in other words you typed a lot abt. Her and if she doesn't like you she has a hard wayy of showing it.. ithink you should go for it. And for future reference don't grind on other girls in front of her. K :) good luck. But idnt think you'll need it.

I wanna become a rapper, do you think I Can? Tell me what you guys think?

I like your rhymes but the question is do you think you can make it ? instead of asking other people ask yourself do you believe in yourself don't listen to the haters it's all you. If you like your lines and think you can go big time dedicate your time to working on your rhymes. You are what's holding you back. So ask yourself the question am i good enough to make it?

How can I deal with people crying? Help!?

Well, usually when my friends cry in front of me and stuff, I try comforting them. Don't sit there unless your friend is the "touchy feel" kind of person. When a person cries, they normally like hugging and words of comfort. Try that next time. It shows compassion and you are there for them. Any kind of touching of the body is nice because the person knows you are caring. I hope this helps, ciao!

Does this girl like me?

So basicly I've known this girl for a while but we never seemed to hang around that often, but I hung around her brother. So lately we've been actually hanging around and she convinced me to watch a show called Skins (U.K). I want to know if she likes me cause i'm one of those kind of guys that can't read faces and emotions very well.

Im dreaming about girls i loved (love)?

So, there are actually two girls whom i fell in love, this is not the first time its happening so i dont really know what the hell to do cause its getting on my emotions, screws up my whole day because i feel really sad that i couldnt get them or at least one of them, and i always dream that im kissing with one of them, and having fun and talk and such so we feel good with each other, but in reality they are both angry on me and actually its fair because i've done some things to them so im not wondering why are they angry on me, and actually i just want to forget them so i could move on alone in my own little way in life, but they always stuck in.... they are both beautiful girls, and i cant forget them if im still having dreams like i were in a couple with either one of them. What the hell does it mean or how can i burn them out of my memories? Thanks in advance!

I can't stand being around my little sister, ever. What should I do?

It seems like you are in a very tough situation, and I'm really sorry about that. But, I am a little sister of my oldest brother, who also suffered from clinical depression. Actually, there was one point in my life where I was going almost the EXACT same situation, only I was the annoying little sister. I was so upset to come home from school, knowing that I had to completely change my behavior and turn into this little brat because my brother just seemed to treat me like ****. My mother began to realize what was going on (she is a psychiatric nurse), and she said that it is frequent for the older sibling to take out their anger on their younger sibling in a form of confusion, or wanting to feel that someone will love you no matter how you act. And I, too was being a little bratty girl, just because I was unhappy, and because there was no ro-model to show me how I SHOULD act, with a torn relationship with my brother. My brother took depression medication, and I got busy with schoolwork and after school clubs, and soon we argued less, and now we fight every so often, but the arguments never last, and we learn to enjoy each other's company more frequently.

What would be the first clue you might look for?

What would be the first clue you might look for to determine whether a newly discovered unicellular protist is an alga or a protozoan?

Will i need any filter for the following descriptions?

Well, the best way not to kill fishes is changing their water everyday. Fill a tank with water equivalent to the one your aquarium has and leave it on daylight(not direct one, it will catch strange stuff from air, I suggest near a window)for 24 hours. Then remove the water the aquarium has and fill it with the new one. Be sure to be able to refill fast or no fishes anymore! No need for filters etc. For the algaes, you have to use chemicals, there's no other working way. Use chlorine based shock, it's for the same reason but for pools. It works just fine. For the rocks just remove them with full water. This works my fishes live 3-6 months each, satusfying for me. Just remember to feed them with the right amount. Most of my fishes die because of overfeeding them, rarely by not feeding them.

What's it mean if I crave intimacy?

I'd give anything right now to have someone to cuddle with and kiss and just hold on and have emotions for. I don't know why, summer time is when I should feel free and happy, instead I am feeling a tad bit physically needy. I was just laying in bed and thinking how nice it'd be to have a man to lay with.

What signs must be destroyed?

Ok, I've been planning out a secret mission of getting rid of that Gemini and Aries, while working with Libra to take out Sagittarius, But in order ot catch Sagittarius we need Pisces, But they wont work with me and Libra. But if we work with Pisces than that means Cancer will join along and there snitches, But Gemini will love that. So maybe we will need Cancer. But at the same time Scorpio will not like the idea of getting snitched on and will take all his anger out and lose focus. But if we Have Capricorn to contain Scorpio's emotions we can succeed, Yet Capciron is on the enemy's team Gemini,Aries,Sagittarius, And freakin Aquarius. THIS ALL COMES DOWN TO TAURUS. We need Taurus.. Anyone seen taurus?

How to put up with an ACT obsessed family?

Kick the ACT's butt next time! Seriously. Study really hard this week so that you can do awesome the next time you take it and then you never have to take it again. Just put in the time and the effort for this one tiny little week and get that 32-35 and then be done with it. Then you can go out and have fun with your friends and do whatever else your heart desires.

Why are my cherry shrimp dying?

how did you add them to the tank ??? shrimp should be drip acclimatized before being put in any new tank ... it should take several hours before they are released into the tank ... when i get new shrimp i will float them in the tank they are going into and add a couple tablespoons of tank water to the bag, every hour for the next couple of hours i keep adding more of the tank water a few tablespoons at a time ... i have never lost any shrimp that way ... if your fry tank has minimal hiding places, they could have been stressed out ... a clump of java moss is great for them to hide in :O)

How can I help my fiance get over something that happened in my past?

When I was younger I was raped. I acted out in a way I know a lot of people have done. I had my reasons, i was damaged, and I didn't know how else to cope. I have come to terms with my past, I myself have let it go. I know that in the end my actions were not right. But he hates how people are when it comes to sleeping with people. He hates how so many people think its ok to sleep with so many people or that I let myself go through that. He doesn't understand nor will he ever, but it bothers him. he thinks about it a lot. It hurts him so bad to think about what i have done. I tell him the past is the past it doesn't have to do with us. Its only you and me and none of that matters. Its not like i loved them or there was emotion behind it. I know that makes it pointless and it took me meeting him to realize I'm better than that and I don't have to deal with that and that I shouldn't have in the first place but I did and its done. How do I help him get over something that really isn't his problem? How do I help him to realize the past is truly the past? I fear that if he can't learn to let this go its going to continue to hurt our relationship when really there is no reason for it. I don't go around dwelling on the few people he has been with, I know its the past and I know its only me in his eyes but I need help to help him see the same way I do....thanks for your time

Can i keep an otocinclus in a 5 gallon?

i knows its small but so are they and all i've seent tem do it stick to the wall and hang there... If I could, what would I feed them? I dont have any algae in my tank but they are really cool so would they settle for the aqariun sinking algae chips? are they aggressive?

How to help with depression and cutting?

Yes, you did right. Ask mom if counseling is helping sis, if not, find a fone # in county area that handles emotional issues and ask what to do. You are NOT RESPONSIBLE, your parents are. You'll find several county agencies that can and will help you. Of ALL else fails, talk to childrens protective agency. PLEASE, she could cause serious harm to herself and heartache for entire family.

Red tail shark floating sideways?

We have a red tail shark in a 10 or 20 gallon tank with angel fish, an algae eater, and barbs. The shark has been floating vertically towards the top of the tank for the last few days. However, it does swim away when startled. Does anyone know what is wrong with it and/or how we can help it?

Why do songs have to rhyme?

Some songs sound annoying the ones that rhyme, why can't there be good songs that just have meaning or emotions without everything rhyming?

Any ideas about what I should do once I move out after living with my boyfriend for about a year?

My boyfriend and I met on E-Harmony and entered our relationship before we had met face to face. From the day we met we've been living together in his apartment(he asked me to move in after being together one month). Now, after some issues(now getting resolved) we've decided it'd be best if I alone moved into the new, bigger, apartment we were planning on moving into together this July. I'm a jumble of emotions about the whole thing, happy, sad, anxious, scared. Moving into this place will be the first time I'll be living on my own, without a roommate, my parents, him. And it'll also be the first time I will have had the opportunity to date my boyfriend of almost a year. I've never really dated before either, I've always been in a relationship with the guys I've dated. So does anyone have any advice on how I can survive living all alone, and not go out of my mind all by my lonesome, and how this dating should be? I know it's backwards how he and I are doing this, but we both think it's best, I'm just one of those people who likes to have an idea of what to expect and how I should act in return, especially dating-wise. Any and all help is welcome. Thanks. :)

I am looking for a movie title. I have googled everything I can remember!?

I totally know this movie!!! It took me a minute to think of it, but it's called "Subject Two"

How humans can use algae to make fuel for our cars?

we can able to use of algae to produce lipids from that biofuel can be produced by anaerobic organism, we cannot straight away use algae in our cars.

Phil.. Are there structures or buildings on the far side of the moon?

Honestly, I lost interest in your question and didn't read past the first line, but I have heard there's a McDonalds on the far side of the moon.

Sea monkeys in 3 gallon tank care help?

I recently bought a 3 gallon tank for my sea monkeys because the little plastic tank won't work for my trip to college(5 hours). The tank came with a filtration system, Tetra water purifier, and an air pump. Will the Tetra Aqua products be safe for sea monkeys or should I throw it out? And if I can't use sunlight to grow algae in my dorm to feed them will I have to use the food packets or is there another way to get algae? Please only serious helpful answers. I need to know the best way to care for them in a college dorm.

My pleco! URGENT! Please HELP!?

I have a common pleco, and lately he's been loosing color. He still is active at night, and sucking, and eating the algae wafers i give him. But he's loosing color. Is something wrong with him? He always is under my rome decoration, he is upside down possibly hiding from the light. But if he is stressed then what should i do? Please this is urgent!

What fish can eat the large numbers of Malaysian Trumpet Snails in my tank?

Dwarf Puffers - They kill the baby snails very well. The bigger ones u have to remove manually.. Have a plan for them after your snails are removed they will bug the hell out of your other fish. The will nip at your fish, but they are fairly slow, kinda move around and look at stuff like a betta does..

I can't stop crying, someone help?

I really like this guy, so much. And believe me when I say I don't get like this. It's oh, so rare for me to care so much, especially this much. And this guy is near perfect, for me. And I care so much about him and I want to tell him but idk what he'd say and that's what scares me. I don't want to make things awkward between us if he doesn't like me. And I'm overwhelmed by my emotions that I just broke down crying. I'm not used to feeling so strongly toward someone and I don't know how to handle it.... Help... do I tell him? Do I keep holding it in....do I try and let it go?...

Peacock feather ink colors?

Without doing a lot of experimentation I have looked at 100s of peacock feather tattoos on the web trying to figure the colors out. Anyone without berating me tell me what colors to use to achieve the true colors in a peacock feather tattoo. There are some beautiful ones out there and I want to do the best looking one I can. Thanks in advance. If you want to tell me "if I knew how to tattoo, I'd know what color to use." Save that for your mama.

I hear voices in my head, i cant control my emotions that well, i see a dog sometimes its rare but dose happen?

and when im out i feel like people are following me, its more towards men tho, and i day dream alot, what could i have? and im seeing a trained mental health doc but she hasn't told me anyways

Oranda goldfish- possibly Swim Bladder?

If he really cant control his swimming, for example: he'll swim down but cant help but float up or like you said floating about upside down. Sounds like he does have swim bladder. From all that I've read having freshly washed peas pealed and fed to them may help. With my oranda he was doing the same thing after feeding him peas he got better, but I had to help feed him because he couldn't feed himself. I had to hold him and wait for him to open his mouth and put in very tiny pieces of peas little at a time. Because if your oranda cant feed himself he will end up dying.

What happen to my snail?

I highly doubt so. My snails are thriving in my guppies tank. Guppies are not smart enough to extract the soft meat from the shell, unlike clown loaches. The snail probably died due to other reasons such as incorrect water parameter or improper acclimatisation.

What is the best bass lure?

I have my own 14 foot Jon boat and I love to fish. My lake has a lot of weeds so I use topwater. What is the best topwater lure for bass? Also I like to rig Zoom Super Flukes with no weights so I can throw it on lily pads and algae. What are good worms for that too?

Would the difference in our writing styles be distracting?

The horrible grammar, punctuation, and choppy dialogue and sentences were more distracting than anything else.

Please help!!! Algae problem?

Cut your light usage to 4 hrs. per day and increase your filtration system to twice the tank size. Reduce the amount of feed and clean your tank once a week. Add natural plants as well and keep away from sunlight.

READ IT OR you will make me WEEP! plz?

I really liked it up until "I felt a tear accumulate in..." and then it got too wordy and then it turned supernatural. Up to that point though, I loved it. Good luck with it :)

Poem. what do you think? brutal honesty is welcome. =)?

could be interesting, but you should polish it a bit more. I do like it. Maybe edit out some bits? right now its probably an 80%. I am an amateur poet.

Put a woman in her place?

So my wife and I are at dinner with another couple, who have just been recently married, and the woman is dominating her husband verbally and berating every idea he has, story he starts and is very dismissive of his thoughts to the point that the atmosphere got awkward. Afterward my wife made the comment, "If I ever do that to you, put me in my place because that was horrible". Should I talk to my friend about putting her in her place next time?

I can't stop thinking that I'm fat and ugly...?

Its simple. Life is to short to look in a mirror forever. 120lbs is a perfect weight ok. If you feel like you need to tone up then go for a jog every other day. Please dont kill yourself for this. Cut back on the eating, or eat more healthy ORGANIC food. No high fructose corn syrup. Be happy, and your skin will lose its tension and begin to tan a little more and more. Be happy! Be spiritually strong too. If you become stronger spiritually (and im not saying go to church every day) thenstuff that your mind tells you will bounce right off you.

How can anyone have tom leykis as a role model?

He says it like it is and doesn't censor or sugar coat it. I admire him greatly and follow a lot of his advice but I wouldn't call him a role model.

I feel like my life is completely hopeless?

Accept what you have. Find 5 things you are grateful for now. Write them down. Repeat them whenever you can and add more.

Does it bother you when people stick up for strangers they know nothing about?

I especially see this happening when it comes to parents. I know someone who hasn't spoken to his parents in 15 years and when people find this out they instantly berate and attack him for being "selfish" and defend these parents of his even though they never met them and know nothing about them. I would NEVER accuse someone of being in the wrong for not having a relationship with a complete stranger to me who for all I know could've molested them or beat them or emotionally tortured them or god knows what. I mean yeah, it's 'possible' that the person is just being selfish but it's a lot more likely that they have a good reason for their feelings especially if they are feelings that stem from childhood. I try to put myself it the person's shoes and think...What if I berate someone and I don't realize that I'm berating a victim of child abuse! As if that person hasn't been through enough in their lives they now have to deal with some schmuck who doesn't even know the people they are defending tell me that I'm the selfish one? I'd rather just be quiet and not say anything rather than take the chance of possibly defending a baby-rapist or something. But I see people do this all the time even here on YA when people mention they don't talk to their parents. Why do people just assume that if you reproduce (are a parent) you're automatically a great person. Most people in high security prison are parents- they're hardly saints. I'm bringing this up because my friend just told me he decided to from now on just tell people his parents are dead instead so that they don't attack him and defend his parents.

ALGAE GROWING ON MY MYSTERY SNAIL!?

my snail seems to have green algae looking spots on his back, and im wondering why, and how or should i remove it. and if you can, tell me a way to prevent this from happening again. thx!

Why is Christian Wicca okay to some but Satanic Wicca isn't? (bear w/me, trying to understand POVs)?

christians do not do wicaa we adore the Lord and we praise him,,,and if you dont find anything wrong by praising the devil then go ahead but obviously you know whats the right and wrong choice...God bless ;)

Dropped my Droid X in water, please help!?

Take the battery out of the phone then call your cellphone provider and say you lost your phone. They will cover it under the insurance.

Can anyone help me? :(?

for the past month I've been feeling really off, my emotions are a roller coaster, one minute I'm happy and the next I'm angry and one second later I'm crying! On top of that I'm always tired and I'm always thirsty! Even my dad has noticed I'm way more irritable lately! even my cat meowing is making me irritated.. I'm also scared because i didn't get my expected period last weekend, and I've been on my birth control for the past 3 years so i always get it the same day. I also got my wisdom teeth out last friday so I'm not too sure if the antibiotics had something to do with my missed period, but I'm nervous and i don't know what to do or think :( someone please help??

How to start a freshwater community shrimp tank?

Use the chemicals because the shrimp are very sensitive to water conditioners also make sure you get large ghost shrimp because your betta loves sea food

What do you think of my poem so far?

It's an excellent poem. It makes sense and the tone is very nice. Although it doesn't ryhme that much, it's still a nice poem.

How many times should i add water conditioners and algae in my 2gallon fishtank?

what fish do you even keep in that tank? the only fish that would be able to stand a chance in a 2 gal is a betta

New fish for my new tank?

Are you getting rid of the Loach or the chinese algae eater? Both could be aggressive and you didn't specify. Common algae eaters are the plecostomus and any form of catfish, but they could easily get attacked by the loach. It can be difficult for algae eaters to thrive in an aggressive or semi aggressive aquarium

How do I solve this coworker problem?

As lame as it sounds, Narc. Seriously, if you've tried being civil about it and she doesn't want to hear it then you've got two choices. Roll over and continue to let her act and slack off the way she has or go tell your boss and hope they do something.

My boyfriend gets angry all the time - PLEASE HELP?

I really need some advice. My boyfriend always seems to get angry and usually over small or weird things, and I don't know what to do. Like today, for example, we went grocery shopping. We barely had any groceries and he started freaking out about paying for it, but in a sort of passive aggressive way - mumbling about it, talking under his breath, but not telling me exactly what he was saying when I asked. I offered to help pay, but he wouldn't let me because he knew it upset me when I used to have to pay for everything last summer. So I didn't really know what to do, so I told him he could go get my debit card out of the car if he wanted. He refused and started becoming really angry and saying "this happens everytime we go grocery shopping" as if it was my fault, but it clearly wasn't . So I went to go sit in the car while he paid for it because it was starting a fight, and when he gets in the car, he says this, without emotion, "I'm sorry, although you probably hate me." And after this stuff happens he always sighs and stuff all sadly. Nothing I've done works. And PLEASE don't tell me to break up with him and find a real man, because that won't help either of us, and that's not love. Thank you.

What does a fear of canals, sewage plants, reservoirs and dams mean?

To be honest i don't think anyone LIKES sewage treatment plants and i dont think anyone fantasises about wallowing in canals. I'm sure you will manage a normal life without being expected to jump into a reserviour, also. All you need to do is make sure you don't get a career for water or sewage companies, or live on a barge.

What else should i add?

i have a pleck in my 2 half foot fish tank he will grow about 6ins in total my tank holds about 127 liters iv got all sorts of fish in my tank i have had pleco before in a 4ft tank had to give them away as they where to big for the tank they where about foot half long mind you they grow huge

Why does 0-bama berate "BIG-OIL" for making 2 cents per gallon on gasoline while government makes upwards of?

65 cents per gallon (in several cases) for a product that they have no power to produce? Wouldn't an 8% profit margin be considered absolute failure for any industry that 0-bama and his statist lap-dogs haven't put their "BIG" label on?

Should I make a move on him, or wait? And does he seem like he likes me?

If you haven't talked to him face to face, you should do that. Just to see if he really is into you, or if he's just being friendly. Chances are, talking to him will make him think that you like him (if he likes you) or make him think you just want to be friends (if he doesn't like you.) so either way, talking to him in person is he best thing to do. Just go up to him and say something like, "I overheard what you were sayin about _____ and I think _____" or just go say hi. But if he's with his friends, bring your friends to make it less awkward.

5.5 gallon Tank with female betta and 2 ADF, additions?

Ideally, you can't add anymore fish. Decorations? Absolutely! Well really, one more "fish" you can add to your 5.5 gallon is a single snail. I don't recommend apple snails, they get huge! Other than adding a snail, that's it. I also suggest adding some live plants. They look great and help maintain a nice fish tank water balance.

I'm in a mess, please help?

please try to get out of your house...it seems hard thoug but have hope and everything will soon be ok..im sorry about your family and everything..honestly you need to find another gfriend..someone who will support you and listen to you. Graduate and keep looking up. Don't let someone bring you down. Life is beautiful you just haven't met the rigt people. Seriously there's some friendly folks out there :) have a nice day and look at the brigtside. :)

My mother has ruined my life and yet I want her to still be a part of it...What should I do?

So let me start this off by saying that I am 20 years old and have watched my mom go from a loving caring mom, to turning the family into a mad house where everyone is afraid to stand up to her and she picks favorites with my sisters. She has a mental condition that she had been prescribed medicine for, but refuses to take her medicine and denies having any problem at all. My grandmother says that it has gone down hill since I was born. She used to leave me alone as a small baby to go on long walks...and it has gone from there....For 4 years now my mother has berated me and belittled me and has said I was a loser who can never make the right choices in life. She has forcibly removed me from relationships when I was dating people in high school and isolated me in my room until I gave up on the idea of being with them. My fiance is the only one who stood up to her and refused to back away and stop dating me just because she said to (just as a side note). In the August of last year (2010), just before I went off to college and unable to take it any longer, I left the house and moved in with her parents, which were more like my mom and dad than my parents were. Naturally, she hates my fiance, who has kept me afloat as I was diagnosed with depression two years ago and received help for it thanks to his nudging reassurance. His only flaw is that he enjoys to drink every now and then (as in once a month) with our friends and he dips. She calls him an alcoholic and a lazy loser for not wanting to have a job while he is attending an auto diesel school to be an auto-mechanic. Which, because of the hands on work that i have witnessed first hand, is like an unpaid job in itself. He only wants to keep me safe and take care of me, but because he is not the one she wants for me she has said horrible things to his face and has spread nasty rumors about us behind our backs to the family. As far as my work ethic in school, I made A's and B's in High School with the exception of two C's and got a 3.85 GPA. My Freshmen year of college I made two C's and got a 3.00 GPA for the year. She has criticized me for switching my major 3 times (two this past college year and once for this upcoming year) and says I am never going to get a degree because I am not dedicated enough to one thing to learn enough to get a good job. I have worked and saved money and got my own car, a used toyota camry which is perfect for me. I am continuing to work and go to school and save for when my fiance and I are going to move in together next spring. Until then, I am staying with my grandparents, who because of the rumors my mom has made don't like the idea of me getting married to him. He doesn't feel like he owes them any explanation as to the way he actually is and feels like once we are married, and he has a job to support me and him that they will see that he is actually worth something. However, the only problem is that none of my family wants to come to the wedding and that upsets me. I have literally stepped back and analyzed why I was with him and looked at his flaws and strengths and made sure I wasn't one of those people who are blind to their partner's bad qualities until they are no longer with them and have had the chance to sober up. I am 100% sure that it will work out and everything will be ok. I just want my old mom back and I want my family to support my decision in marrying my fiance. What should I do?

What is a good algae eater for a 10 gallon community tank?

I have tetras, platies, catfish, glofish and ghost shrimp in my 10 gallon. I'm looking for a peaceful, efficient and hardy algae eater who will keep the tank less green. What do you guys recommend?

If you start out "Friends with Benefits" with no Emotion & Kissing, then Why does he break the code & do it?

I've known him for a couple of years now & It started out as a Fling, but reciently FWB Kissed me out the Blue when we were getting busy? Somebody tell me Why??

Growing Algae and Cleaning methods for my 10 gal.?

I reccomend getin some live plants and no more algea eatin fish. U can always buy algea pelets to feed ur algea fish so they don't die. And that way u have a clean tank and happy fish. And ur fish probably die because u clean it too much make sure the ph is close and add drops if needed but don't stress out the fish by cleanin it so often. Clean I every 4 weeks unless it starts to smell bad

Fluval 305 weak flow HELP?

I have recently purchased a Fluval 305 for my 40 breeder turtle tank. I have noticed that with the intake strainer on the intake tube the flow is very weak. So I removed the intake strainer and the flow was strong. When I woke up the next morning my gold chinese algae eater was not in the tank so I thought my turtle ate it or the Fluval sucked him up. I open the Fluval to find my algae eater still alive in the canister. So I need to have the strainer on to prevent this again but I noticed that the check ball is what seems to be reducing the flow . Has anyone tried to remove the check ball in the intake strainer and if so does this increase flow?

Need fish to get rid of guppy fry?

I have some small week old guppy fry in a ten gallon with a male guppy a female crowntail betta and two emerald cories. Everyone but the new fry has been together since springbreak and the betta is completely fine with the other three fish. What are some fish I can add that would eat the fry (there's like twenty of them I can't keep them all!) but would leave the three older from from apiril, which I am keeping alone? I have a empty five gallon too but I'd prefer to not use it because I still need to scrap off the algae in the tank

New fish is being chased?

Believe it or not, this could be jealousy on the part of the bigger fish. A lot of times, fish fight over territory. The reason for this fighting could also be because they are both males and do not get along very well. Sooner or later, the smaller fish might be starved to death by the bigger fish or killed. If you want to save their lives, your best bet would be to release them in their natural habitat. If you can't do that because of what ever reason, buy another tank and separate the fish. Make sure to also give the smaller fish some company if you decide on separating them. Good luck!

I can't stand being around my little sister, ever. What should I do?

You could try to set up a family therapy session, that would probably get your parents attention. Or simply start seeing a therapist or counsellor yourself that may help. Do you have your own bedroom? you could buy a lock for it, then just say your therapist suggested that you have your own personal space :).

I like him but he's a flirt?

he probably feels like an ***. You're definitely not a whore because you left the room and he knows you're not because you refused to do more than comfortable. He probably feels bad about what he did and might try to avoid you so not to hurt you or get in trouble with others.

Can these fish combine together?

No small tetras with angels. They become lunch. also I do not think that the ADF is a good member because the problem with these is, They have very poor eyesight and when they realize the food, It will be already almost gone so your frog will most likely starve. Hope i helped

Problems masturbating, please help?

Sounds like you're just plain tired. Try getting extra rest on the weekend when you can sleep in. Then go for it.

What are some good songs to use to choreograph a contemporary (lyrical) dance?

I am a dancer and have been trying to find some good music for my solo in contemporary dance (lyrical). Does anyone have good suggestions? It could be about a lose of love or in love feelings or anything that has good emotion.

What do you feel about this poem? Please also suggest a title for it. :)?

good poem very good though keep in mind many poets do not name 100% of there poetry several poems are called untitled but if it where me i suppose i would call it missing you or yearning for you or something along those lines or dreams something like that

Why is divorce seen as such a bad thing? Often times it's for the best for everyone involved?

It may be tough at first but atleast you have closure when it comes down to it. It is a much better alternative than staying in a shattered relationship and facing the agony of seeing that person everyday. Especially when you have kids. You are doing them a disservice by constantly berating each other infront of them. Over time making them resent you and possibly forming unhealthy relationships of their own due to constant exposure.

Why is there such heartless cruelty in this world?

All guys are like that or should I say most human beings. You cannot trust anybody in this world I tell ya. I am a very trustworthy guy but I keep my trust level to 80% to whoever I meet no matter how good, loving, caring they are. My family is the only one that gets my 100% trust. Other then that I would trust no one, that's what the world has become. Rumour spreading, back stabbing, disrespectful round oval we live on called the Earth.

I'm trying to talk to my parents about religion...life?

Probably not the most qualified to answer this question as I chose 'pretend'. I have my own views, and am interested in many religions as I think all have a basis in truth, but I do not personally belive in god. My family are orthodox, and I am willing to play along for 'family love' and 'traditions' sake :)

What is a good way of showing your friends you really care about them?

I have a group of friends, they're the best friends I have and I think the world of them. I think they kind of know, and think highly of me too, but I've never been very good at expressing myself or my feelings, and even if I did come out and just say this to them, I don't think they'd believe it. Is there any other way of getting the message across in a way that they'd appreciate and understand? We're a group of lads and emotions have never been our strong point....

Whats do i do about a hostile work environment?

Im Irish living in England and i went through a similar situation in my job by a fellow employee...every day entertaining his chums with his anti Irish humour. Put up with it for two years. Then i got hate emails from him, so when i had proof i made a formal complaint. Then went off sick til it was dealt with. Was off for three months and they eventually sacked him. Basically get her to get some hard evidence. Make the complaint. Then go to the doctors and get a sick note and stay off until the work environment has been changed to suit her. She'll find that Will put everyone in order. Plus she can't be sacked as its an illness caused by unprofessional colleagues. Plus they have to pay her sick pay cos its not her fault. But she has to get evidence. P.s make sure she finds out her companies policies on such matters. Hope this helps.

Disappearing fish? help!?

I have a 75litre tank with 6 white cloud minnows, 3 zebra danios, 3 pearl danios and 2 chinese algae eaters (I know theyre not compatible but they were sold to me as 'peaceful, coldwater suckerfish' and the shop won't take them back). over the past couple of days I noticed one of the pearl danios was getting really fat but still active and healthy so it cant have been swimbladder. This is the fish that has disappeared. There are 2 caves in the tank, a small one and a very big one which the danios regularly swim in and out of. Where has my danio gone? It couldn't have been the chinese algae eaters because they are around 1.5" and 2". Please tell me what you think happened to my danio. Thanks in advance

10 days late and negative test but am I pregnant?

So there is always the possibility that your period is just late. Me and my hubby were TTC for months. There were so many times where my period was 1-2 weeks late and I had that negative pregnancy test. Those test are 99.9% accurate. Usually when I got the negative I just waited for my period and it would come. There still is the slight chance that maybe you tested too early. Take another if you want to be sure! Don't worry about it though. Stressing doesn't help! Take care! Hope everything works out!

Is my employer allowed to text me outside of work on non-work related matters to call me an idiot?

My employer recently started texting me to give me information on where to go and when for the next day, which is fine. However, recently he texted me blaming me for something that happened in the store after I had left, and, just to clarify, I asked him when the incident occurred. Instead he began berating me about my intelligence and told me to look up the Abbot & Costello "Who's On First" skit to essentially deliver commentary on my ability to interpret communication. What I'm wondering is if this constitutes as harassment or something similar. If not, then I'm not sure how long I'll be able to put up with being told how stupid I am at work and outside of it.

Use these words in a paragraph? pretty please?

beneficiary. guileful. fabricated. haughtiness. humanely. demise. aghast. denigrate. catalyst. berated. havoc. languish. pacifist. immaculate. begrudge. modicum.

What do Black women see in Black men?

Those specific black women are brainwashed into the whole ride or die for black men; which has to do with sticking together no matter what during the civil rights movement. Funny thing is black men were never faithful to black women not even during the civil rights movement. I swear American black women have to be the most naive race of women on the freakin' planet.

Doesn't being emo mean to be over emotional?

i have little to no emotions, yet my friends call me emo. but doesn't being emo mean to be over emotional?

I get really sad and cry randomly?

About 8 months ago I witnessed my 2 year old niece drown and I was instructed to give her mouth to mouth CPR, even though she was already dead. About a month ago I was raped by a stranger. In between those two incidents, I've been getting very sad randomly, my emotions are changed very easily (i.e. Today my boyfriend said I wasn't very good at a game in the arcade and I wouldn't talk to him for about an hour and I ended up crying really hard.). I also get really down about myself when this happens and can't stop thinking about how horrible ad stupid and ugly and fat I am. I'm 14 and I'm currently in counseling... It's not really helping. What do you think this is and how can I stop it? Thanks.

5 months pregnant and my bf wants a break?

My boyfriend and I have been dating for just over 2 years and have been living together pretty much the whole time. we are both 23 I am currently 5 months pregnant with his baby. I know we have been agruing alot, and I have been emotion and telling him i need him there for me. It seems every weekend he hangs out with hs friends and does not come home until the next afternoon or evening. Even though I am pregnant and ask him to please come home after, he has never come home after in the last year that we have lived here. He says were not married and he doesnt understand why I care. But Anyway when he doesnt come home I get worried and sometimes acuse him of cheating. So the last time he went out i accused him again over the phone and he said its over. the next day he came home and grabbed some things and told me its a break, he wants to be single and free and not have me tell him what to do. and he loves me and only wants some space. It hurt me so much as I was so shocked and its been so hard on me, he ended up coming back and taking everything. he has moved in with the girl i thought he was cheating on me with and that hurt soo bad. this all happened within the last week. He insists he is not seeing her or fooling around with her or anyone, he says he doesnt want us to see other people, and he loves me more than anything. he just needs space , and is unsure if he will come back or not, but says we will be together agian. I feel so worried and I want him back more than anything, I am wondering if he is just saying its a break and he love me and says he isnt seeing her or anyone just to be nice, but if it was over wouldnt he just tell me hes seeing someone?. I do believe what he is saying that they are only friends and roomates, but its so hard to accept. Is there a chance he really does want to get back together? I am soo confused please help. How can I get him to want me back, I am such a great girlfriend i do anything for him, and only ask him to come home when the partys over instead of sleeping there.and accuse him of cheating which i know he hates. I want him to miss me and want me back and not make me feel worried.

Is this a suitable character thing for Hamlet..?

I see no problems other than a couple of typos, spaces left out and unless watheeh is arcane Shakes-lingo (LOL) you should fix that. GOOD work go getcha an A

What is Clinical Depression?

Can someone basically sum up what clinical depression is? for the past month or so i have been having random fits of depression. i have written down all of the things that have made me feel any strong emotion and to be honest, none of them alone are enough to do this to me. i think of myself as a very strong minded person but lately i have been kind of... "Bleh" if you have any idea what i mean...its gotten to the point where i have almost completely stoped eating. in the past 5 days i think i've eaten half a bowl of Ramen, and a small bowl of spaghetti which i was forced to eat. i am 16 years old and my average weight 2 months ago was about 125lbs. now my average weight is about 110lbs. i am not exactly sure what the problem is but my life isn't that bad. i need to know if its actually depression or a chemical imbalance. dont ask whats wrong because i'm not sure. thats why i had to write what i could think of down on paper because it all kind of blurs together and its hard to think. please just give me some general info and if you want, some advice on what i should do or the mind set i should be in cause the one i'm in right now isn't working too well.

I have no emotions anymore, and im numb please help?

i feel like lately i have no emotions at alll . i just recently heard my friends talking about some lady who's husband is dying and they're losing their house and she had cancer and they were all upset about it and were showing empathy . but i couldn't . i didn't really feel anything towards them . and i don't feel love towards anyone really anymore . i just say it because i know im supposed to say i love you. i recently (three weeks ago, about) i self diagnosed myself w/ clinical depression . i'd been taking self quizzes online and and reading descriptions and journals and ever since then i haven't felt anything anymore. i never want to be by people , im always by myself . (by choice) and i just don't want to deal with people . i make excuses not to go out and i know pretty soon people are going to stp asking me but i don't care . im actually kind of waiting for that to happen . some people have asked me if anything was wrong and said i was acting strange lately . ive been really moody and the smallest thing annoys me . i just want to know why i really don't feel anything anymore ,i feel kind of like a robot . just going through the motions w/ a straight line on my face instead of a smile . i can't cry anymore when i used to cry all the time . it just doesn't come , even when i try and i used to be able to make myself cry . if you know for any reason why i am feeling this way , maybe you could help me ? thanks

Trouble with a bitchy aunt?

Guess you aren't very good at putting yourself in other people's shoes. Glasses leave permanent rings on wood and mean more cleaning on other furniture. Sounds like your aunt is wiped out thinks she is doing all the work and getting no appreciation. You want to see her calm down? Come home immediately after school, do your homework then get a snack. Do you have homework? They don't give it out here. If no homework then maybe you can ask her how you can help her for the next hour. Bet, if you start doing those things she calms down real fast.

What should i expect? Does he want us to be more than friends now?

i think he has a thing for you. so you should expect a little more on your date he will probably tell you he likes you or something. good luck, hope hail likes you! i mean hope he likes you!

How can my BF fall out of love over night? I'm so hurt.?

I'm so confused and hurt. My bf seemed fine... we joked and laughed and I was his baby and then all of a sudden all he wanted to do was go out til all hours of the night with his one guy friend and drink. And spend all his time with him. And he got mad at my for everything and screamed at me and berated me and pushed me around. Then one night he didn't come home and I called him and he said he was sleeping at his friends house and when I got sad he said we were over. Now he says we are over and he just wants to be alone. He said he was lying when he said he loved me. I told him I'm so hurt and he doesn't care. I did so much for him. I cleaned and cooked and di all his laundry. I bought him so much stuff. And he tells me I was obsessed with him. II just don't understand how he can go from hugging me and calling me his baby and loving me and telling me I'm great to treating me like this and saying he wants to be all alone. I put up with a lot and never left him. When he got drunk one night and said I made him want to beat the **** out of me I still stood by him. But all he wanted to do is always be with his on guy friend. Doing everything with him and talking to him more than me. He told me I was not important, and I'm so hurt. I just want him back so much. We were together for 1 1/2 years. This week he went out and my phone died and I ended up in the hospital for a few days and couldn't get a hold of him and when I finally did he said he wasn't even worried about me. I just wish I knew what I did that was so wrong that he is being this way? I did everything he demanded of me and still I was no good for him. :(

Ladies; please help me decipher girl code.?

You're not ready for ANY type relationship. Tell her you're not nearly mature enough to handle it - & move on to greener pasture.

Is my algae eater shedding?

my algae eater is in a small house i got when i got the tank hes being in there for like 1 week already and i got the net and moved the house and the algae eater went out and some kind of shed came out he moves fine i have 2 algae eaters and 1 tiger barb i had another tiger barb died i had 2 other silver dollars and 2 angel fish,1 eel they all died but do algae eaters shed or is the algae eater

I love him a lot I am just worried?

Dear girl...lighten up or you may lose your boyfriend. Your boyfriend should be a healthy part of your life..not your whole reason for living. Do realize this kind of dog like devotion is suffocating to another person and does not in any way resemble real love Why? because it is all about YOU and your neediness {not attractive to men] Find other outlets to your life as well as your boyfriend...keep things light and happy between you...even be unavailable at times.... these are the ways to keep a man interested...I wish you luck

No confidence and more problems for the society later...?

be confident about you. and don't care others activity and that is your best solution and you will be happy.

Is it possible for someone to feel others emotions?

Yes this is possible. You are a medium of sorts, you know like the whole "I see dead ppl thing." You feel the energy around you and subconsciously you react to it. All feelings negative, positive, sad, happy, etc. have an energy and most people can see it with their eyes but you can physically feel it. Its a rare ability and you should look into more information on it, it would be interesting to see how far you could take your "6th sense"

Does my boyfriend want to be with me?

Ok, I don't know the real answer to this question, but I do know how you can find out. Try talking to him even if it is hard for you. If you honestly can't then another option would probably be moving on. If you both agree about this, then ok, but talk about it a little first because, you don't know how he truely feels about you yet. I wish you luck. :)

How to recover after a break up?

what you have to do is just go out do things be busy, there's no good getting yourself down and crying when it wont do no good, there's plenty of guys out there and you're only young, you'll find many other guys who you will fall in love with/like, so yeah just keep busy and go out, i also find talking to people about it helps, especially family :)

Why am I getting bullied?

Have you talked to your parents about this? & there isnt anything wrong with you, theres something wrong with THEM. Dont worry things will get better & soon enough you wont get bullied anymore. (:

Can't control these reactionary emotions?

This girl that I have had deep feelings for broke out during our conversation this morning that she had sex for the first time with her ex-boyfriend when they were together. After a certain amount of sex, he dumped her. When I heard this, I just didn't know what to say. I'm very old-fashioned, and hearing this just made me break down emotionally. I didn't expect someone like her to do this until she was eighteen or..ready. It's been on my back this whole day; I can't concentrate while I play with my dogs, use Facebook, or even when I'm communicating with another person. It hurts. And I don't understand why.

How do I control my emotions?

I got out of an abusive relationship about two years ago, but I still feel the anger and pain. It wont go away! I used to cut and that helped it subside, but because that is unhealthy I stopped. Now I'm so angry and so sad all at once. Rather than cut I write insults about myself allover my arms to " keep my ego in check". I feel like I'm going off the deepend. I don't want to feel like this anymore, I'm drained. Where should I go for help? What do I do?? I understand this is a public forum and many will probably say I'm just crazy... And I understand. It is crazy. I want my normal brain back...this is awful.

Brownish spotting/bleeding for 9 days. Two negative HPT's. What is going on?

It could very well be the stress you spoke of. Sounds as if it has been rather intense lately. I would, however, see a doctor, and tell him/her of your concerns. Two negative tests does not mean you are not pregnant, it just means you are probably not pregnant.

Need help setting up new aquarium?

I just bought a used 55 gallon set up, and I want to give a through cleaning before adding any fish to it. It is empty and I have so far rinsed of the gravel with hot water, put the decorations in a solution of 5% bleach and 95% water, rinsed several times and currently have them air drying. Now my big thing is the glass on the INSIDE of the aquarium is foggy, ive scrubbed with towels and used an algae magnet and it isnt dirty just has a foggy glaze over it. Can i use something to clean the inside of it? I know you cant use windex etc, but what about maybe vinegar ? Also I know a tank has to cycle before adding fish how long should it cycle for it? Thanks

Title of this novel..?

I had a book years ago. It was a romance novel, but thicker than the harlequin ones. The back cover was bright yellow with cherries on it. The content of the novel was about a plus size woman who's father (?) Berated her. A rich man started an affair with her and he dressed her in great clothes. I believe I read this book around 5 years ago? Does anyone know the title, and the author? Thanks

Seniors, a quick question for you...?

You seem to be very sensitive and intelligent, and you've probably heard what I have to say before. We can only change the world around us. Be kind and considerate to everyone you meet. You'll find it's contagious. You'll feel better,the person you're dealing with will feel better and on and on. The trick is to be kind all of the time,because you never know who you will affect.

Who else self-harms and knows how to cope in a better way?

Well, honestly i cope by doing things i like to do that keep me mind off of things. I draw, read ,write. Or I (weird) bounce a small ball against my front door. I do that repeatedly and its a comfort thing. Just like twlirling my hair or chewing on my nail. But when I bounce the ball i go off into my own little world. :) It makes me feel better, to get a away from this messed up world even for a couple of minutes.

Suggestions! What other fish should I add to my tank?

It's a 16 gallon bowfront and I already have a red platy and dwarf gourami (think it's called blue/powder puff) so it's almost cycled and when it is what else would be fun and colorful? I kind of have in mind: another kind of dwarf gourami, some dwarf corydoras, and either a snail or bristlenose pleco or some sort of algae eater...(not really interested in guppies, platys, or tetras but more unique) Thanks!

Nobody's at fault, but everyone's mad. Is there any way to piece this back together?

Good friendships are impossible to replace. Get together face to face and have an honest/open discussion. It may take some talking to make it happen. But, it is worth it.

Do my kids REALLY need crowns on their teeth?

Stainless steel crowns are placed on baby teeth when the teeth have too much decay to use a filling. If you go to a pediatrician, they want to increase their income in the office, and usually the parents have insurance. The insurance pays little for fillings, but a lot for crowns. I would not have crowns placed as it is not comfortable for the patient. But the only other alternative is to wait until the baby teeth fall out. Usually the teeth will fall out on thier own before they will cause pain. Unfortunately, some schools want a letter from a dentist saying your child has no bad teeth. This is what sociallism is doing to our country

Does this 'friend' (yes I use the term loosely) deserve to know I'm seeing his ex?

Yes he does, how would u feel if the situation was reversed. If u don't say anything now when he does find out he will probably think u always wanted her or was seeing her behind his back. Ur not asking his permission but getting sum unneccessary drama out of the way in case he sees u 2 together or here about it from someone else.

HELP! former boss plans to sue me for libel.?

He is going to take you to court. Admitting he is a drug addict. Meth. And your word against his he tryed to buy drugs from you. And he best have strong proof he has slept with you. The Judge will love this one. But lets hope he do's go to court here. Make it much easyer for your counter suit.

I have a friend who is on probation for minor pot/DWI offenses and is considering moving to Spain or Mexico?

He is of Spanish and Mexican decent but born in the US, the offenses are Class B misdemeanors, he figures financially it would just be easier than to deal with probation, the money involved, and the legal system here in the US. I know that there is no conviction on his record as of yet. I think at this point he's spent over $20K in fines, bail, probation fees, lawyers, etc. We all know that probation is only about money. And I know that he can qualify for a ancestry visa in Spain and Mexico. If he renounced his US citizenship, could / would the US pursue him on a Class B misdemeanor? I don't see how the US could pursue someone that is not a US citizen anymore. But then again I don't know how international law works either. What's the community's take on this? I need real answers and not a berating on "How bad it is to run", or "You did crime now do the time." BS, real answers only, I happen to agree with him on moving, he has paid his debt of $20K plus and they just want more, and he's done jail time because on occasion he couldn't pay his P.O.

Why are criminal Defense Attorneys allowed to be so rude?

Almost every trial I watch anywhere in the country, the defense attorneys are some of the slimiest, rude, antagonizing people I have ever seen, badgering and berating witnesses and victims to crimes on the stand in court. If the witness or victims respond back in similar fashion, they are admonished by the judge as "hostile", yet the defense attorneys can get away with it..Why?

Does this tank sound suitable for two male fancy guppies?

I have two male fancy guppies in a 5.5 gallon tank. They also share the tank with an otto- algae eater. I have an air pump with and air stone. I plan on doing 25% water changes twice a week. They have many plants and some decorations. I'm new to the fish world and would like help to make sure my fish are happy.

What do you think of this situation? [I did something mean and i'm not sure what his true intentions are...]?

So long story short...I played with this dude's emotions. I took advantage that he liked me and I felt really bad for doing this so i stopped and told him the truth. He was sad...We talked about it and then he asked if i wanted to start over so i said sure although he didn't really act like we were starting over. I would say hi and he'd just ignore me. So one day i just forgot about him and went on with my life. But now all of sudden he comes back and he starts saying hi and telling me he misses me. To tell you the truth he's a person with good intentions but this just seemed weird. Do you think he's just toying with me or is he being real? o_O

Insanely angerly i need serious help?

Hi, Im 20 years old amd depressed beyond repair.I gave myself to a man for two years who stood m up on dates emotionally and mentally abused me and sometimes physical. I hate waken up in the morning because I cry, I cry alot. I break down at work its embarrassing i cant control my emotions Ive never been sensitive until now, im insanely angry and scared of myself because i don't know what ill do. I'm smart im in college but i guess i picked the wrong man. he took my virginity and that's all he cared about was sex sex sex! I as never allowed in his house couldn't have his phone number he treated me like ****,he tore me down. He recently took me to a broke down motel room for a date? a week ago i had no idea he was taking me there, until we got there.than our anniversary was on the 23 and he blew me off hasn't called me since, he took my virginity and threw me away like trash. i just ned some help because i cant handle it.

Do gay men have a broader spectrum of emotion ?

Or do they, as "The Man" said, have not a broader SPECTRUM, but a broader RECTUM ? ha ha thanks to the man for this awesome jokes.

Why don't I feel normal? Please can I have some serious answers?

I head seems so messed up. I haven't cut myself in a little less than a year but when I did cut myself I felt so happy. It hurt to cut myself, but once it was done I felt so good. Like a whole lot of weight was lifted off my shoulders. I have really vivid dreams of me killing people or people dieing. There are times where I try to save them from the enemy. I feel so depressed at times which has sometimes led to an anxiety attack. I am a patient person and always have a smile on my face. For as far back as 5th grade, I have bottled up my emotions. When I am angry I am full of rage and feel like I am on the brink of snapping and losing it. I cannot even remember the last time I cried.I workout out and run 6 days a week. I am a healthy 23 year old 5'10 1/2" and 180lbs. Sometimes I get so depressed I do not even want to eat. When I close my eyes I feel the emotional pain.I no longer sleep because I have this pain in my shoulder and neck and sometimes lower pack to the point where I cannot sleep. What is weird is the pain will one day be on my right side and then the next be on my left side and both in the same spot. The pain is not from working out because I do it with perfect form. Maybe this is where I store my stress, I don't know. Deep down inside I feel so empty and lifeless. I have NEVER had suicidal thoughts. So when I did go to cut myself, everything just seemed like it stopped and slowed down a bit. It felt great but I knew it wasn't good for me.Then again things do seem to go at a faster pace then they should be. What the hell is wrong with me?

What's wrong with me?

I'm 16 and I feel like I don't know who i'am.people at school say I look sad all the time and quite and hardly smile.I don't feel like doing normal stuff like play video games or go outside.every night and school nights I go to bed at 12 or 1 and when I get home I sleep for 2 hours.I just feel really mad and angry about everything and just sad there being nothning for me.I won't cry anymore hardley...I just get angry and will break things outing holes in walls.I don't do homework anymore just want to get through the day. I just feel like being alone and I never really hang with friends anymore.my dads mentally ill and been dealing with it for three years and I don't feel that much love for my mom or my brother and those are the two most important people in my life.I find it hard to smile and I guess I look angry all the time even when I'm not.I feel really sad also for liking this girl I know alot...it's been two school years I liked her and have so much feelings for her but she doesn't like me back..since it's summer I feel more angry then when I was going to school everyday.I don't know what to do anymore,I don't think I'm decent looking as a guy I actually think I'm ugly even though I ask the girls in my grade what they think and they say I'm attractive..I feel like I will fail my classes next year in highschool and will have no future,no hope..the man in my life I hate the most in my life is my father even though he has a illness.I feel weak everyday and over the past while getting drunk or high was the only time I'm not mad or angry.I only done those things couple times.I don't even like doing my passions anymore and I hate how people exspect me to be a artist when I grow up.Out of me and my brother, I'm more sensitive to everything.. and I have alot of emotions but I feel I don't have them anymore.I'm sensitive to light in mornings and have broke some of the lights.any advice on what should I do..please serious answers

I'm emotionally unavailable, how do I change that?

I'm tired of my relationships breaking apart because of my lack of emotion. I don't want to think of the past anymore. I've read that therapy can break my habit of always dwelling on the past, but I don't have the money for a therapist, how can I get over this, without having to spend money?

Why do people berate the atheist for being rude when other theists tell us to go to hell?

I'm seriously not seeing why it's a one way street. It's two way and we are all rude but we are human. Don't judge or scold others. It doesn't matter wHat they believe. Anyone agree/argue?

Is my mom controling abusive ?

Okay I don't know if my mom is being emotionally abusive as well as verbally. Inside I am really hurt and in turmoil. She treats me very differently from me and my older brother. I don't have anything against my older brother I am a middle child and for the most part independent. Yesterday my mom put me in charge of chicken. While I was in my room my older brother turned off the stove. When my mom came in she was yelling saying why did you turn off the chicken and I Said I didn't turn it off. My brother comes in she starts joking with him and she kindly says why did u turn it off. One of many occasions. I'm kinda a person who doesn't care much how I dress up I'm more of laid back all day pj girl. On school days I try to dress a little better but I keep casual mostly cause my mom isn't satisfied of how I look she complains cause of my hair and critizises my clothes basically saying I look like sh** . She always finds something to complain about why is your hair not shiny how come you don't dress like this she goes to the smallest details right down to my own smell. I do appreciate the small things she finds for me I always say thank you and show my gratitude by wearing it. also I'm not the smartest girl but I'm not dumb either I do recognize my own faults but she makes me feel low she calls me stupid dumb and idiot. She knows I'm not good at taking and giving directions she isn't either but everytime I mess up she insults me and yells at me I have to pull the phone out of my ear sometimes cause its that loud. I have very strong firm beliefs which she also berates she says I talk about stupid things and make stupid comments. I'm a good student I've never gotten I. Trouble never dranked smoked or even have a boyfriend. I've never given them a reason not to trust me. Now this morning I woke up early and found both my parents in the living room I told my mom I had pain I didn't make a huge deal bout it just kind of a thought. She then took her time to berate me.

What do you think of this character of mine?

I love your character!! Ive made characters myself. my fave character that I have made is named Ryley Ambrosia. she is half valkyrie & half witch. she is in a wiccan covent. since she is a valkyrie, she has small fangs and pointy ears (like an elf) she has the ability to see the future (soothsayer) & can read peoples minds. she has long black hair, green eyes (changes when feeling certain emotions), a perfect nose, and plump red lips. I write my own stories & she is the main character in the one I started. its cool to see that other people out there have an awesome imagination! :)

BIG aquarium questionS??????? fish care, plant care?

ok i have a 50 or 55 gallon fish tank i have nothing inside except gravel. 1rst questions what kind of plants should i get that will survive in low lighting? do i have to give the plants anything? what kind of shrimp are the best for eating algae? how many shrimp should i get? how many fishes do you recommend i put in the tank, im thinking about putting fishes like neon tetras and guppies in. what side do you recommend i put the filter in? (left, mid left, right, mid right?) should i get a heater? thank very much if you can answer all of my questions :)

Am I just crazy? What the heck is wrong with me?!?

I love music. It's part of who I am. Because of that Ive been working on songs with a band. I've been pushing myself very hard to write some great stuff. Because of this I've been missing sleep and working diligently. However, it has put a great deal of stress on me and so today I woke up rather stressed and in a bit of a funky mood. Generally I just listen to some music and I'm good to go but today.. For some reason.. It didn't feel like much emotion was evoked. Maybe I'm phsycing myself out and over thinking or maybe im just tired but this has never happened before. All day its been kinda like.. I've been waiting to hear that hook and get my fix and today... It just wasn't doing much. Please help this is kinda scaring the **** out of me. I'm probably just waaaaay overthinking things which is why I can't connect to my music on an emotional level as much today. Which may have something to do with a lack of sleep but I sure would like to hear someone tell me that this happens.

I need help with a shark egg problem?

i have a shark egg and ive had it for about a month a bit longer its recently released sme white stuff from the egg and it made my water murky and made everything high and it smelt lol. i rubbed my fingers on the egg but it didnt smell and now the water has cleared up. i have been putting the egg towards the light to see if its still there and today i tried it and couldnt see anythin because the algae has strted to cover it i rubbed it gentley and noticed one of the sides is soft any suggetions because i dont want to get rid off it if its still gna b ok plus ive bought another tank to house it in lol

Is it right to spank your misbehaving kid?

This country is turning into a nation of whining sissies. We might as well be France! There is no reason for that woman to be charged with a felony for spanking her own child for misbehaving. When I was young and I blatantly did something wrong- I was spanked and guess what, I didn't misbehave again. I also turned out perfectly fine. A simple spank is not child abuse, it's teaching a lesson and not letting spoiled, ill-behaved, tyrannical kids run around without any consequences for their actions.

Is our pool green because of algae?

We put our intex 15 foot by 4 foot round pool up for the second time and the water is all in it. The water is dark green and a little cloudy but right now we an see through to the bottom. The water is evenly mixed with green, I don't see any of the algae gunks yet. We've had water in it for only 5-6 days so could it be algae? I also explored the possibility of it being because of metals in our water reacting with chlorine, but I still think we should buy an algaecide first.... am I right? If so what algaecide is best